Now that I have two kids things are starting to get complicated. Having one child is a bit easier, I think…two is getting complicated and I can only imagine, three, four or more…What happens when they scream for attention? and you still have to continue with your dream of succeeding as a mompreneur.
I am starting to notice more often, my older son is screaming for attention. He does everything the opposite way as I say. Why? I don’t know. I can scream inside myself thinking: what can we do as parents? We always try our best that is all we can do, right?
My son seems to love his sister but sometimes, he pokes her in the eye, or even squeeze her stomach or he tells me: mommy Stellita is pinching me, Stellita is pulling my hair and Stellita is only 7 months old.
Once a week I tried to have mommy and me time just the two of us. Last saturday we went to Dunkin Donuts for breakfast. We talked and we said to each other I love u, and I love u back…etc, etc… before we left I asked Tyler to wash his hands. He went in the bathroom and I waited for him at the door, then I heard him screaming, I go in to see what happened? and he kept screaming. Out of nothing!!! What would you do? is 9a and people are peacefully having their coffee on a saturday morning at Dunkin donuts? Trust me those things I don’t get them. Of course he screams for attention but I wish I could read his mind and I could know what is going on through his head. Of course he only does it with me more than with daddy.
We have tried time out, doesn’t work. We have talked, doesn’t work. We have tried taking toys away, we have tried “throwing away” most loved toy or taking away candy and throwing it away… He still screams for attention.
And as I am trying to find answers to all this, I kept reading different articles and this are some of the other things we will try in the process of raising our two kids.
To discipline effectively, think about these ideas:
- Using effective discipline methods to respond to misbehavior helps the child learn self-control and helps create a happy atmosphere at home.
- Divert the child’s attention from something you don’t want him to do or use positive models to change behavior.
- Let children settle their own arguments unless there is danger of one of them being hurt.
- Be firm about behavior you feel strongly about.
- Be detached. Imagine your are your child’s aunt or uncle.
- Keep children so busy making choices and knowing for certain that they have to live with those choices that they don’t have time to “put their moves on you.”
I hope this helps a bit as you raise your terrible two’s, three’s, four…etc kid:)