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July13

Teaching your kids, It is OK to lose (6 years old)

My son has been dancing the worldwide known "marinera" since November of 2013 and when in 2014 a friend of mine suggested he could  compete in August, as I parent I knew he wasn't ready. I thought there will be other opportunities; indeed there was another competition in November of  2014, and I thought he was a little ready so I said: OK, we will try it and for this first time we did. LUCKILY he got 2nd place, perhaps there weren't many contestants I don't know, or perhaps he got lucky as I said or simply he deserved that 2nd place. Yesterday we attended a competition organized by a Peruvian organization called "Pensando en Ellos"  , "their mission is to help young kids have a brighter future". The morning of the competition I helped Tyler, my six years old to change his clothes. He had practice a lot and we thought he could have another chance and perhaps make it to first place. So after I helped him change I told him how proud I was about him. Just to go out and dance it was something to be proud of. Tyler asked me: Mom are you crying? and I said YES because you are my little kid and It is hard to believe you are going to dance in a competition, let's pray to God to help you this time, ok? and he said: YES, MOM but don't cry We got to the competition and they were ready for their first apperance; Tyler and his partner Camila dance well, there was another couple that dance better I was sure of that. IMG_3853 IMG_3867 Someone told me "marinera" sometimes gives you those bitter and sweet moments. We experimented it first hand, and saw that judges seemed tired and with lack of interest. (my personal opinion)     This is what Tyler (six years old thinks) watch video https://youtu.be/jCUy31mmK5E The couple that danced third place shouldn't even dance its third place, the couple in 2nd place should have been in 1st place and the couple in 1st place should have been in 2nd place. Anyhow I believe there are other reasons that magically make couples get its first place in this competition. A couple people mentioned that the couple that made it to first place came from Connecticut which was the same state that won last year, BUT they bring money to the organization (in tickets sold), they bring people to their party two days prior to the competition, as well as higher number of tickets sold the day of competition...and perhaps that is more important than following ethically the rules of the competition. Perhaps, right? The moment to tell my kid he didn't make it to finals, I told Tyler you didn't make it to finals, he said mommy: I was going to win, I was suppose to go to number one. What happened? (he is six years old)...I told him Tyler sometimes you win and sometimes you don't , this time I think it was unfair you didn't even make it to finals. Something happened. But we have to be strong, and be patient, try harder next time; and now let's cheer for your friend Stephanie who is in finals. He kept been sad like a little baby who just wanted to be in mommy's arms. My heart was broken for putting him through all this. Then finals came and his friend Stephanie got 2nd place. We came to congratulate her, but few minutes later, we saw her crying outside the area of competition. So I said Tyler: let's go to Stephanie and tell her don't cry, you did GREAT. He went up to her and said: Stephanie don't cry, YOU ARE A CHAMPION (and hug her),  both her dad and myself were almost in tears, because seeing two little six year old kids supporting each other was even more important than winning a competition. It was a life lesson. Yesterday, was a day to remember, a day that tought my kid to continue trying, to continue dancing. I know there will be other opportunities. Thank YOU so much to all of those who came to support us, and for those who have seen the quality of Tyler's dance and agree that he is a raw chalan, like a raw diamond and hopefully if he continues to like marinera he will continue growing as a dancer and eventually win one of these days. If he ever wins I hope is because he really deserves it. As a mom I just suggest you, don't judge your kid. Especially if he is only six years old. - MOTIVATE your KID - TALK ABOUT IT - GROW with the experience - MOVE ON Someone told me (someone who is been in marinera, for so long) Marinera is for dancing, you are giving your child a lesson for life, because life is like that sometimes you win, sometimes you lose but most importantly is that you keep going. Sincerely, Evelyn Brooks  
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